Managing emotions responsibly

Emotions are a natural part of sport, but managing them effectively is key to creating a positive environment during football matches. It is important for parents to learn how to manage their emotional reactions, as their behaviour directly affects not only their children but also the overall atmosphere at the match.

The role of emotions in sport

Sport naturally evokes strong emotions in everyone involved – players, coaches and fans alike. These emotions can be positive (joy, enthusiasm, pride) or negative (frustration, disappointment, anger). Understanding the role of emotions and their impact on the sporting environment is the first step in learning to manage them constructively.

It is important to realise that emotions themselves are not harmful, but the way we express them can have a significant impact on those around us. Controlled enthusiasm can motivate and uplift, while uncontrolled emotional outbursts can disrupt the match atmosphere and negatively affect young players' performance.

Recognising emotional triggers

To manage emotions effectively, it is essential to recognise the situations and moments that trigger strong emotional reactions. Common triggers include controversial decisions by referees, aggressive play directed at your child, or situations where your child is not selected for the starting line-up.

Self-awareness and the ability to identify these triggers allow us to better prepare for them and develop personal strategies for managing them. It can be helpful to keep a mental or written record of the situations that affect us most emotionally so that we can practise specific techniques for managing them.

Techniques for managing emotions

There are several effective techniques for managing emotions during sporting events. A basic tool is conscious breathing – deep, slow breaths can help calm the body and mind in tense situations. Another useful method is to count to ten before reacting.

Physical activity, such as walking around the pitch or changing where you are standing during a match, can also help release built-up tension. It is useful to have positive phrases or personal mantras ready to help reframe negative thoughts into constructive ones.

Role modelling for children

Parents are their children's primary role models for how to manage emotions in tense situations. The way parents respond during a match directly influences how children learn to regulate their own emotions in sport and in life. It is important to demonstrate controlled and respectful behaviour even in emotionally challenging moments.

When children see their parents remaining calm and positive, even in difficult situations, they learn valuable lessons about emotional regulation and sporting behaviour. It is also a good idea to talk openly with children about emotions and strategies for managing them, helping them develop emotional intelligence.

Dealing with tense situations

Tense situations are inevitable in sport. These can include controversial decisions, injuries to your child, or disagreements with other parents or coaches. In these moments, it is essential to keep a cool head and approach the situation constructively.

Before reacting, it is advisable to take a step back, assess the situation from a broader perspective, and consider the long-term consequences of your actions. If you feel unable to control your emotions, it is better to step away from the situation temporarily than risk an inappropriate reaction. It is also important to know the official procedures for resolving conflicts within the club and to follow them when necessary.